By: Jackie Warner
Here we go again with trying to be helpful and do what we feel is right for those around us.
My topic this month is about doing all we can for those we love and care about even when you have done all you can, and still struggle to do more and then even more for them.
I can relate to this way of living and often find myself tired, stressed out, and depleted. The saddening reality is all the work and trouble doesn’t yield change in those you seek to help…only more of the same. Therefore, it is time to:
1. Establish personal and professional boundaries.
2. Allow them to feel the weight of their actions.
3. Cut off or limit financial assistance
4. Live your life
5. Protect yourself and others
When you want more for them than they want for themselves, it’s time for you to change your mindset on the actions you have been taking. Yes, it is hard to let go and let our loved ones bump their head and maybe even fail a time or two. Mark 6:11 – If anyone will not welcome you or listen to you, shake the dust off your feet when you leave that place, as a testimony against them.”
Author and life coach Iyanla Vansant tells us:
· You cannot want more for people than they want for themselves.
· You cannot give someone something they are not looking for.
· You cannot help someone who does not want to be helped.
And so when you get upset with the ones you are helping, giving to, sacrificing for, losing your mind and sleep over…it’s time to move on. Luke 1:37 – “For nothing will be impossible with God.”
Galatians 6:5 – “For each will have to bear his own load.” Ephesians 5:11 – “Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them.” Proverbs 10:4 – “A slack hand causes poverty, but the hand of the diligent makes rich.”
September 20, 2024
